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The Big Illusion

Julian van der Wouden·1 min read

The next thing won't make you happy. Neither will the one after that. That's the illusion.

A spiral staircase seen from above, the illusion of endless progress

Happiness on Hold?

We often believe we’ll finally be happy once we achieve something.

That dream job. The perfect body. The ultimate trip.

Social media constantly fuels this illusion.

Every image whispers:

“Just one more thing, then you’ll be happy.”

Diagram: Value of something — Before you have it / When you have it / After you lose it.

The Trap of Getting Used to It

But here’s the catch: happiness doesn’t work that way.

You know the feeling: craving that new car, that promotion, that ideal partner.

But the moment you get it, the excitement fades quickly.

It doesn’t fill you up for long.

Because as soon as you have it, your mind shifts to the next thing.5

That’s how adaptation works.

What you’re truly looking for won’t be found outside yourself.

Not in things, not in likes, not in followers.

Illustration accompanying The Big Illusion — the emptiness behind 'more'.

Everything That’s Real

True, lasting happiness is found in how you live.

Ambition from a place of self-love brings fulfillment.

Working on yourself from strength, not from fear or lack.

The ideal image you see on Instagram, TikTok or Snapchat isn’t achievable.

It isn’t even real.

It’s edited, filtered, carefully staged.

Yet we keep comparing ourselves to it.

You know better, but you do it anyway.

The more you compare, the emptier you feel.

The more you chase, the more you forget:

Happiness is now.

Today.

Not later.

Not someday.

You can stop waiting.

Right here, right now.

Live for yourself.

Illustration accompanying The Big Illusion — what stays once the chase ends.
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5 If you're always searching for something else, you'll live in a constant state of lack and restlessness, the exact opposite of gratitude and abundance.